Early Tantrums & Frustration (12+ months)
Tantrums typically begin 12-18 months and peak around age 2-3. Early tantrums involve crying, screaming, arching back, throwing things, hitting, or going limp.
Causes: frustration at limited language/abilities, tired, hungry, overstimulated, seeking independence, testing boundaries.
This is NORMAL development - baby has big feelings but lacks skills to regulate them. Brain's emotional center develops before logical center.
What to Do
- Stay calm - your reaction teaches them how to handle emotions
- Ensure safety first - move dangerous objects, hold child gently if needed
- Don't give in to demands - this teaches tantrums work
- Don't punish - child can't control emotions yet, brain still developing
- Use simple words to name feelings: 'You're angry. I understand.'
- After tantrum: Give hug, move on quickly without lecture
- Prevent when possible: Avoid triggers (hunger, tiredness, overstimulation)