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Stranger Anxiety & Fear of Unfamiliar People

Stranger anxiety begins around 6-12 months. Baby cries, turns away, or clings when approached by unfamiliar people (even grandparents they don't see often).

This is normal cognitive development - baby can now distinguish between familiar and unfamiliar faces and prefers familiar.

Peaks around 12-15 months, gradually improves as toddler becomes more independent.

Not a sign of poor socialization - it's healthy development showing secure attachment to caregivers.

What to Do

  • Don't force baby to go to unfamiliar people - this increases fear
  • Let baby warm up at their own pace from safety of your arms
  • Ask visitors to approach slowly and let baby initiate interaction
  • Stay calm and reassuring - your comfort helps baby feel safe
  • Narrate what's happening: 'This is Grandma, she loves you, you're safe'
  • Regular exposure to same people helps - consistency builds familiarity
  • Choose consistent caregivers rather than many rotating babysitters

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