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Separation Anxiety

Separation anxiety typically begins 6-8 months and peaks around 10-18 months. Baby cries when you leave the room or when held by others.

This is HEALTHY development - shows secure attachment and understanding that you exist when not visible (object permanence).

Symptoms: clinginess, crying when you leave, distress with strangers, waking more at night, resisting bedtime.

Usually improves by age 2-3 as child gains independence and language skills.

What to Do

  • Practice short separations - leave room for 1 minute, come back, gradually increase time
  • Always say goodbye - don't sneak away (builds trust that you'll return)
  • Keep goodbye brief and upbeat - long emotional goodbyes make it harder
  • Create goodbye ritual: hug, kiss, wave, say 'Mommy/Daddy always comes back'
  • Leave baby with familiar caregiver in familiar environment when possible
  • Give baby comfort object (blanket, stuffed animal) for when you're gone
  • Play peek-a-boo often - teaches that things come back after disappearing

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